MARRIAGE VOWS AND MARRIAGE

It is the desire of every one to marry someday as it is seen as a consolidation of love and a sign of responsibleness in the society. The union between man and woman is established by traditional, Christianity or law court with vows taken to ensure discipline. These vows with much focus on Christianity are solemn promise sworn in the alter of God and can  also be seen as a covenant with God. It involves the priest reciting words like "do you sincerely take so person as your lawfully wedded husband/wife in good times and bad times, in sickness and health, for richer, for poorer,for better,for worse and to be faithful,honest and loyal till death do us part." Which husbands/wife to be are expected to response and surely do accept the vows.

Marriage vows have existed from time immemorial and are part of the institution of marriage mostly undertaken by one man,one woman. they were respected by our fore fathers and those who feel they can't,kindly got married to many wives and avoided church wedding. This practice was handed over to us as a culture with dignity and are main to be respected but only few if there's even few that honours marriage vows these days.

Husbands and wives take this vow in the name of God but all is what i see now like formalities. The breaking of the vow starts right from the alter because most people don't even listen to the wordings of the vow while others knows within them its not possible. Who then are we deceiving? Of course ourselves because we are saying what we don't mean and can't keep. If at the point of taking the vows you mean to keep it but fail later round with an excuse of human nature then it should be a reason you don't take recycle vows.

Most people have ran out of marriage because they can't cope,there is cheating ,there is general abuse of the institution despite the vows taken with & in the name of God. These has contributed to the reason am calling for the review of marital vows by churches because of the practices now associated with it. The rationale is that the notion of cheat and divorce is existing because of the vows taken if there's no such vows it won't be seen as divorce or cheat. This call has been jettison with my second thought that the church has a culture and traditions which are derived and back by the unchangeable bible hence marriage establish by a church must reflect the culture of the church and that include reciting recycled marriage vows. I have extend my thought to respond that the marriage vows has not stop anything to most people and ask which is better, to change things to avoid sinning? or continuing taken vows that most people can't keep hence sinning happily.?

With Consideration of the increased rate of unhappiness cum problems in marriage Am of the flexible opinion that marriage vow should be a personal airing of what one intend for such marriage since its their union and not what has been said many years ago because the society has change but let's agree what has been existing is what one intend but how many really have the intension . The court marriage is a good example of my "flexible opinion", it allows the agreement between a man & woman with the role of hitting the part button if broken but despite all these cheating has not stop and may be seen like cheating depending on the agreement or we lame about the agreement.

However how lasting or peaceful a marriage is doesn't comes from the vows but love, understanding and forgiveness which marriage vows indirectly represent. Just like they are requirement for admission into any institution so there is about Marriage. Marriage vows are taken as part of the requirement for the institution of marriage with the consideration they are two people in love and respect each other feelings. The feelings of love hate cheating,dishonesty and divorce which is predominant these days and that's what marital vows guide against but what if the feelings no longer hate cheat,dishonest and divorce then my "flexible opinion" comes into mind.

Marital problems are on the increase because Marriage vows are broken daily by even pastors excused by man acclaim weakness that is to say even it(marriage vows)becomes my "flexible opinion" it will still be broken but the focus should be on how to sanitized the institution of marriage and that begins with me and you. If you are not ready to marry remain single,its better than having a broken marriage. if you must marry let it be for love not money or influence of significant others in your life,and if you are married to the one you love understand & respect the vows taken. If marriage vows are respected then marriage is successful and many will come asking for the secret. There is no marriage without vows and if there's any it shouldn't be consider as marriage.

MY NAME IS ZEDICUS PIRO AND YOU KNOW SAY WORDS NO BE PROBLEM